How Can You Make Peace With Yourself?

I want to make peace with myself. Because I’ve hurt myself so much. I have been guided by so many confusing messages that I have become my own worst enemy.

We just need to step outside to be overwhelmed by a complete load of information. Advertisements and posters telling us to be slimmer, hide our wrinkles, have fuller hair…

What happens if we gain a few pounds, or have deep wrinkles and thin hair? Will that make us feel bad or sad? Are we even starting to feel sorry for ourselves?

But although we are confronted with reality in those moments, it is up to us to decide whether it is true or not. We just need to look at other cultures. Then we see that they have different standards of beauty.

Why do we stubbornly keep giving so much power to something that will change over time anyway? Plus, it’s actually unrealistic and hard to achieve.

The pitfall of perfection

We may think that the pursuit of perfection that society imposes on us is within our reach. In reality, however, it is just like a hole into which we fall deeper and deeper.

There is no end to it and there is no escape. Because we are bombarded from all sides with messages about weight, posture, beauty. And we place too much faith in it.

We move between beautiful and ugly, between good and bad.

There seems to be no middle ground. It’s all or nothing.

It is possible that one morning we will wake up happy. Happy with the person we see in the mirror. But what do we see once we leave the house? The criticisms and rejections that cause us grief and frustration.

We tend to seek everyone’s approval. We are so eager to adapt so that the rest of society will accept us.

What is unique and different may get more attention. But even then, it’s important that we learn not to compare ourselves to others.

• We can’t pretend to have thin legs when in reality they are much thicker. By not accepting or denying the truth, we create a cycle of suffering that will not have a good outcome.

• Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Do not regard society’s norms of what is beautiful as the truth. In fact, those standards have changed considerably over time.
• We have to look to the past and think about what the people were like in that time period. When we see what their idea of ​​beauty was, we know that it is true that standards of beauty are relative.

Have we really not yet learned to stop getting carried away?

Making peace is possible

It is not impossible to make peace with yourself. Stop blaming yourself. Start by seeing yourself as kind, unique and full of good things.

Isn’t it true that the person who doesn’t care and is just themselves, gets our attention? Because they are one in a thousand, they stand out. And they don’t worry about getting rejected. Their unique way of being attracts dignified people.

Comparing ourselves to others is bad for our self-confidence. Because we believe that we are not enough, not equal, not equal…

In fact, we allow free play to hurt ourselves and not be happy. In addition, we deserve to enjoy life without feeling the pain of these concerns that are mostly about beauty.

Making peace with ourselves is not just about superficial outer things. It also has to do with the beliefs that surround us. Many of those ideas are deeply ingrained in our minds.

An example of this is the tendency to be unable to say “no”. Because we want to be kind to everyone. Or we feel that love means that we have to endure bad things patiently.

We plunge into harmful relationships on the basis of lies. They make us experience situations where we don’t feel comfortable. But society has taught us that and we have put a lot of faith in it.

Advice

We must learn to question everything and open our eyes to the true reality. Not the reality that others idealize and display.

It is possible to make peace with our true selves. We can undo everything that we have been taught to be true and which makes our lives so difficult.

It is time to free ourselves from that heavy burden. To stop blaming ourselves. And stop wanting to be like everyone else.

Now is the time to focus on what makes us shine.

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